The Heat is Off – Recalibrating my Obligations and Expectations

One of the most prolific pieces of blogging advice is to stay active. Especially on social media.

I finally understand how to get traction on my Instagram posts, I have a YouTube channel that picked up viewers pretty steadily, I am writing more on the blog, I’m getting into a rhythm with my commenting. I’m doing alright!

But here’s the thing. I’m not enjoying it. I don’t have time for it. And it’s keeping me from doing other things that I want to do more.

Not with the blogs and the comments, I still legitimately love the blogging community, and now that WordPress finally stepped up their game with comments and responses, I’m enjoying it more than ever! But everything else, has got to go.

For instance, I have gotten to a really good place with my bullet journal. For the first time since I started, it looks exactly how I want it to look, and it’s functioning exactly how I want it to function. My instinct is to share it, on all of my platforms, to show the world.

But you know what? I really don’t want to. I don’t want to set up my lights and shoot a video. I don’t want to take pictures and edit them to look good on Instagram. I just want to enjoy it, and use it, and feel accomplished with myself about it.

This is good for me, and bad for business.

BUT it’s what I’m going to do. I’m dropping all of the pressure. No more pressure to post on Instagram or YouTube. No more pressure to post three times a week here on the blog. No more thinking about how I should have a newsletter or an Etsy shop.

I have a friend who is never happy. She is always buying things she doesn’t need or use, she just bought her third house in ten years, she’s always moving on to the next thing. And I always feel sorry for her, she can’t just sit, relax, and enjoy what she has.

And, I realized recently, I suffer from the same affliction. I push myself so hard, with my goals and habits, that I don’t take a minute to just step back and enjoy what I have and what I have accomplished.

It all stops now. I am going to enjoy this life I’ve created! My house, my job, my family, my body, my new love of running, and my bujo process.

And sure I’ll post on Instagram, and I’m going to keep myself accountable for at least once a week here on the blog. But that’s it. The pressure if off. No more needing acceptance outside of myself. No more dreams of being a YouTube sensation, or retiring on the income of my Etsy shop. It’s exhausting!

Seriously, y’all, I feel the pressure slipping away as I’m writing this. Today’s going to be a good day!

What do you feel obligated to do along with this blogging thing? Are you doing more than you enjoy? Have you reached that balance to keep yourself in check?

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    • Mother of 3
    • August 6, 2019

    It’s funny, I’ve actually stopped most things (other than posting on the blog) and I found my daily page views increased by a lot. I began writing about what I wanted to write about and gave up on my “niche”… I basically broke all the rules and just did what I enjoyed because I realized that blogging is my hobby not my job and I want to have fun with it.

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      They always say that doing what you want is what makes you successful. And I agree, if this whole thing isn’t fun, what’s the point? What was your niche before?

        • Mother of 3
        • August 8, 2019

        I used to strictly write about homeschooling but these past couple of years I’ve sprinkled in more articles about me and our lifestyle in general. I’ve been toying with the idea of re-naming/branding since I hardly write about homeschooling at all anymore.

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          Oh that’s great. I love the mix that you have, I can see why your views would go up. I’ve actually taken note of your school projects for my son. You do some awesome activities!

          1. I love that your finding your level of peace. 😊 also, thanks to your sharing, I’m down 10 lbs and going strong.
            Tricia recently posted…Your Past is Not Your FutureMy Profile

          2. Yay!! That’s amazing!! I’m so happy for you! Are you still doing the marker challenge?

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    I understand this COMPLETELY. I mean, I left my other WordPress platform because I just couldn’t do it anymore.
    So this is the thing, the blogs who are probably most successful? I am not interested in reading. They don’t seem genuine and honestly, they aren’t good writers. Yes, I said it.
    Your writing is engaging, interesting, funny, and makes me feel like I am having a conversation with you.
    Personally, if you can do all of that as a writer, you’ve made it. 🙂
    Kari Wagner Hoban recently posted…Let Me Be Your Life CoachMy Profile

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      You are the sweetest and that makes me feel so good! I love writing and I love that blogging is a chance to have this different form of conversation. We’ve talked about it before, but a lot of the blogs that used to be conversational turned into advertisements and how to’s. You’re spot on, the genuine honest voice is lost a lot of the time.

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    Hey Ani!,

    Not sure why my comment piggybacked, but that’s what I get for using a cell phone. To answer your question, YES! I’m still doing the marker challenge. I ping-ponged a little since the last time and I’m finally getting to the point where I can pick it up. The hubby ‘released me’ from my commitment we had before with the markers (that sounds so terrible) but now I want to do it for me, instead of the commitment to him. If that makes any sense.
    Tricia Murdock recently posted…Your Past is Not Your FutureMy Profile

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      Yeah, I can’t seem to undo that! It totally makes sense. And that’s awesome that you are doing it for you!

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