I started watching Gilmore Girls just before the seventh season. I would rent the DVDs from Netflix, three at a time, this was before they had streaming, and if you wanted to watch a series you’d have to rent the DVDs and you could only rent three at a time. I want to say there was a constant stream of DVDs going back and forth from my house to Netflix, but it’s too corny.
The seventh season aired in 2006, and I’ve honestly been watching the show ever since. So yeah, my obsession with Gilmore Girls is now 13 years old. It’s essentially going through puberty this year. And maybe that’s why I’ve come to this self-aware conclusion.
All this time, I have identified with Lorelai. I mean, I wanted to identify with Rory, but I tried reading Anna Karenina, and just no. But as my obsession goes into adulthood (yeah, I’m a little creeped out by this metaphor too), I realize that all this time while I thought, heck even hoped, I was a Lorelai, I really have always been a Luke.
Here’s the evidence:
1. We Feel the Same Way About Meat
2. We Like Our Space
3. We Have the Same Thoughts About Making Plans
4. We Don’t Believe in Fate
5. We Feel The Same Way About Kids (Except my own, of course)
6. Short Temper? Yes, especially in the morning.
7. We Both Get Emotional, And We Don’t Care Who Sees It
8. When We’re in Your Life, We’re in It Forever
I have so many friends who live in different states and countries that I’d never hear from again, if I didn’t reach out, and call or visit them. But once I’m in your life, I’ll keep that relationship going, even if you don’t call me for months at a time.
“I don’t have many people in my life who are in my life permanently, forever. They will always be there for me, I will always be there for them. You know? There’s Rory and Sookie, this town, and you.” – Lorelai Gilmore
9. We Struggle With Commitment, Until We Don’t
This was literally me when I was finally ready to get married.
“It’s like, it’s not even real to me, it’s like my life isn’t even real to me unless you’re there and you’re in it and I’m sharing it with you. And, uh…I don’t know what I was waiting for and I don’t know what I was scared of, but I’m not, I’m not scared and I’m not waiting, I’m here.” – Luke Danes
I had a long talk with my husband about this the other day, and he agreed that I am a Luke, and he is a Lorelai. He is always making jokes, he is aloof, he loves junk food and old movies, and can be distant with his feelings.
I eat healthy, like to cook, preach about social and environmental injustice, and I am a hopeless romantic though you wouldn’t know it right off the bat.
I said in our wedding vows that he was the Luke to my Lorelai, but it turns out he is the Lorelai to my Luke.