FOMO-tivation, and Gaining Perspective on Spaceship Earth

Do you ever scroll though someone else’s blog or social media, and think ‘man, that’s an awesome ______ I wish I had that’ or ‘I wish I could do that’ or ‘they seem to have it all figured out’?

We all do, right? I know I do.

FOMO

Some call this feeling FOMO (fear of missing out), and it turns out FOMO can be affecting your wellbeing.


A widely accepted rule in human psychology is that people have a tendency to view themselves in the best possible light: it’s called illusory superiority and, in healthy people, it can help boost self-efficacy, or the belief that we can successfully accomplish a task or perform well in a certain situation. But social media FOMO is disrupting that process and supporting an irrational belief that every one else’s social life is superior to our own. ~ Bustle

I’ve fallen into the trap of feeling less than, after viewing what I perceive is more than.

On The Flip-Side

But, I’ve also seen the flip-side of this. There is a director, at my job, who has an amazing life story. She served in the Air Force, receiving several accolades, she was a missionary who helped people in other countries, and she is now a director for a major fortune 500 company. I admit, I have often been jealous of her life story. What have I done with my life?

During a recent team building event in Epcot, I rode with her on Spaceship Earth. You know, the ride that is actually in the Epcot golf ball, that takes you on a journey through time?

We strapped ourselves in, the lights dimmed, and we started our journey. When we came upon an ancient civilization, she asked me, “omg, are those real people?” She was, of course, referring to the animatronic people, toiling the fields in the distance. And it made me laugh, on the inside of course, she’s many levels above me on the corporate ladder.

Then when we passed through the Renaissance, she looked up at Michelangelo painting the Sistine Chapel, and said “wow, I’ve always wanted to see that.” I told her it was amazing, and I’d seen it when I was nine.

Those two moments, sitting next to my director on Spaceship Earth, in Epcot, helped change my perspective. It helped me understand that I’ve done a lot of things in my life, sure I never made ranks in the military, and I’ve never been to Japan, but I have done a lot and seen a lot.

I have seen the Prague castle, and I’ve swam in the Pacific and Atlantic oceans. I’ve camped at the base of a 15,000 ft mountain in Colorado, and climbed it the next day. I gave birth to two amazing children. Like, seriously y’all, I created two lives with MY BODY!

FOMO-tivation, and Gaining Perspective on Spaceship Earth

Comparison to other people is fruitless, and it can really bring you down. I bet you can think of five things that you’ve done in your life that no one else you know has. Or things that you’ve done that you are proud of. AND I bet you can think of someone you envy, or look up to, and you can come up with at least two things that you’ve done that they haven’t, or that you’ve done better.

FOMOtivation

So what is FOMOtivation? I’ve decided that when I come across something that I like, or something that makes me question my situation or choices, I’m going to pin it to my FOMOtivation board, and I’m going to make it happen for myself. I actually already started when I was reading the most recent post on Kari’s blog and saw this picture of her kitchen.

I love the feeling I get from this photo. And I honestly thought to myself, “I wish my kitchen looked like that” though this may be a breakfast nook? And right then, I pinned it to my FOMOtivation board. When I hear myself saying “I wish”, I’m going to try to make it happen. Why the heck not?

Also a while ago I was reading Kath Eats Real Food and saw this mug on her desk (it’s the tenth photo down). I loved it, and after seeing it a few times and thinking about how I wished I had one, I went online and ordered it. Simple, right? I’m actually drinking out of that very mug, right now.

And I’m sure it won’t always work. I mean if one of my online friends gets a PhD, or is elected into the senate, I’m sure I won’t add those goals to my list of things to do. But you get my drift.

What gives FOMO? Do you think you could turn that FOMO into FOMOtivation?

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  1. Reply

    First, I adore you.
    Second, you have (with this post alone) made me realize how amazing us women are who carry babies within our bodies.
    Third, I love that you love my kitchen. For real, this is my favorite part of the house and that color green I could eat.
    Fourth, I adore you. Did I mention that?
    Fifth, I can come help you redo your kitchen.

    1. Reply

      You are such a joy in my life!

      And yes, please! I need help, I am so hopeless as a decorator. I’m going to have to send you pictures of my rooms and you can teach me how to make them look like they are occupied by an actual adult. Or you can come over! And then I can take you to all of my Stars Hollow spots!

  2. Reply

    Ani,
    Thanks so much for stopping by and for taking the time to comment!! Love this post!! Have you ever heard of a Vision Board…. You cut out photos of things you like or what you want to happen in your life and make a collage….. You then place it where you can look at it every day and try to make your “Vision” happen…
    There were times that I envied someone for the material things that they had and then something terrible as far as their health even happened to them or to someone they love..It made me realize that money and material things mean nothing sometimes….
    Hugs,
    Dbe
    Hugs,
    Debbie

    1. Reply

      Thank you Debbie! I’ve heard of vision boards, but I’ve never actually done one. I halfheartedly started one last year, but I didn’t follow through with it. I think it’s a great idea though! I’m going to give it another shot.

      And I completely agree with you. There are people that I envy when it comes to their money, and how easy it must be for them, but they have other struggles that I wouldn’t take all of the money in the world for. I have so much: my beautiful family, my job that provides for them, my friends, this blog and community! So much to be truly thankful for.

    • Mother of 3
    • April 8, 2019
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    What a great idea! I find talking to others helps too. I just mentioned to my husband this year that a dream of mine is to visit all 50 states and within weeks he had changed our family vacation plan so we’d see 5 (not the 1) state we had planned and asked if I’d like to accompany him on a work trip to see 2 more sometime in the next few weeks!

    1. Reply

      Thank you! And that’s amazing! What an awesome team you guys are! Which states are you going to see?
      Ani Kay recently posted…The Public is the Movie I didn’t Know That I NeededMy Profile

        • Mother of 3
        • April 11, 2019
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        Colorado, Wyoming, Nebraska, south Dakota, Iowa, Illinois, Indiana, and Ohio.

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          That’s amazing! I hope you are going to write about it on your blog! Also, if you need an app that helps track which states you’ve visited, I use Been (http://apparata.se/apps/been/, you can use it on iPhone or Android).

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    If I’m not following you already on Pinterest, I’m going to – just for the same of that board. I’m so happy I got to know you. 🙂
    Tricia Murdock recently posted…Random Holidays Challenge – Find Reasons to Add Joy to Your LifeMy Profile

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      This comment makes me so happy, thank you Tricia! And the feeling is more than mutual!

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