Being Brutally Honest About Not Being Perfect

So, I don’t think I’m alone when I say, I want to be perfect. I want the perfect life, the perfect body, the perfect job, the perfect family.

But what does that mean?

Who created this vision of perfection?

Watch out y’all it’s about to get existential up in here.

The Perfect Body

Let’s not start with the perfect life, cause that’s a big one. Let’s start with with the perfect body. What is the perfect body? Is it thin? Tall? Leggy? Flat stomach and big boobs? Who determines what makes a perfect body?

When you think about it, advertisers and the media create the image of the perfect body. We see things on TV and in magazines, and essentially other people determine what our vision of perfect is. Well, I call BS!

My new version of the perfect body is first and foremost, the one that keeps me on this planet! Next, it’s the one that feels good to me.

Lastly, I am using the CDC’s version ideal body weight to reach my goal. I trust the CDC, since it’s made up of scientists and I’m pretty sure they don’t care what I look like. They care about my BMI, and for that I thank them.

The Perfect Job

Next up, the perfect job. Ugh, I have never had a job that I really liked. Ever. I got paid to write when I had my first blog, and THAT I enjoyed. But in terms of full time jobs, they’ve all made me miserable. But what makes a job perfect?

For me, the perfect job is honestly one that pays a million dollars a day and requires me to do absolutely nothing. But let’s try to get more realistic here.

The perfect job, would not require me to travel more than once a quarter. It would not require me to work outside of the hours of my regular work day. It would feed my soul, by allowing me to share things that I am good at and that make me thrive, like teaching, and presenting.

If I’m being honest with you, I’ve always wanted to teach. I even have a Masters degree in education with a concentration in teaching and learning. But I think fear has kept me from chasing that dream. I want to be a college professor. But I don’t know if I can do it, and that has kept me from trying.

Well, that stops today. I don’t know how I’m going to get there, but I am going to start figuring it out.

The Perfect Family

OK, so the perfect family. What the hell is that? And who the hell set the standard? Whoever it was, I bet they didn’t have kids. And honestly they probably weren’t married.

I struggle a lot in my marriage. I don’t talk about it much here, because putting it out in the world for everyone to see, makes it a little too real. At some point, I’ll write about it, but not today. And not tomorrow.

Another thing that is not perfect is that I am not around my kids as much as I would like to be. I am traveling for my third week in a row this week, and that equals a lot of time away from my family.

But you know what? My family is perfect. There is nothing more that my family needs to be than what it is. What really needs to change is my perception. What am I looking for? Do I say I want a perfect family, because I can’t acknowledge the fact that I already have one? Do I always have to be looking for something, because I can’t just be happy with what I have?

Yes. Yes, to all of those things.

The Perfect Life

And that brings me to the perfect life. Instead of trying to figure out what a perfect life is, let’s reflect on why I think my life is perfect.

  • I have a job that pays me well enough that I can support my family of four people and two dogs
  • I have a house, a big house in my favorite state of CT
  • I have two cars, freakin two cars?!
  • I have the most beautiful, talented, and loving children I’ve ever met
  • I have two ridiculous looking dogs who make me smile every day
  • I have creative outlets like this blog and my YouTube Channel (with actual subscribers!)
  • I have a support system of friends and family who I can call for literally anything
  • I have my health
  • I wake up every morning and get to live another day

And lastly, when I take a step back, and calm the eff down, I literally have everything I need; if that isn’t perfection, I honestly don’t know what is. Who could ask for more than that?

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    Friend, there is no such thing as perfect but man, do I get the pressure thing.
    About the health thing, Luke Perry died this morning and I couldn’t agree more with anything you’ve ever written. The older we get, weight and health are more about keeping us on the planet, as you say. Life is so damn fragile.
    I love your “imperfect” life but it really just isn’t imperfect. It is YOUR life. And you are pretty spectacular.

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      Thank you, Kari! I meant what I said about my creative outlets, and what makes it even more perfect is friends like you who share these outlets with me.

      I just heard the news! I was positive he would bounce back after his stroke, but it goes to show, you just never know. And obviously, I didn’t know him personally, but he seemed like a healthy dude. Every day is a gift, and spending the precious time we are given trying to meet someone else’s expectation of perfection is just nuts! I need to be reminded of this. Over and over again.

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    I think at the end of the day as long as one is happy and content then for them that should be the perfect life because everybody is different and has different goals and dreams.

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      I agree, we really are the only ones who can determine our own happiness. Whatever makes us happy, is perfect!

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    I’m so happy with all of your assessments. I am also tired of people telling me what’s perfect. BTW, listen to the do it scared podcast – it makes me want to put my big girl panties on and stare the world in the face. Or at least pursue my dreams instead of just dreaming about them.

    I decided that I was tired of living for the weekend. Gathering bits of joy here and there throughout the week makes all the difference.
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      Right?! Why should someone else be able to determine what perfection is for us? I will check it out! I just started listening to podcasts. Also, I love your bits of joy, I’m going to be following your random holiday lead. Some are just so silly, they are going to be fun!

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